Well, if you read my last post about how to get rid of a copycat, this is kind of a spinoff of that post. When I finished with that post, I thought about how that situation and unnecessary irritation if you knew who and HOW to avoid them. Here, I’ll list the types of people you should avoid becoming friends with, so you can save both time and energy with the right friends.
First off, to avoid any possible bad friend, if it’s early in the relationship, just stop talking to them. Since you two aren’t quite besties yet it’s still fair game. If you’re kind of friends, but not seriously close, just drift yourself away. Skip a day of talking, then two, then work your way to stop talking. IF you’re like really close, but they’re still a bad friend, refer back to the copycat post. Those methods still work for any type of friend you’re trying to get rid of.
I would add copycat to this list, but I wrote a whole thing about that already. If you don’t see it there and wonder why…now you know.
They don’t go in a particular order, but I’ll tell you which one I like the least at the end. Leave a comment below about which one you like the least too.
1. The Instigator
We all know this person; they always want to see a fight, get the latest dish on drama, and persuade YOU to do something reckless, while they sit on the sidelines watching with popcorn. You should avoid this kind of person because as the years go by, the things that they insist you do get worse. They could end up tarnishing your record or reputation while they laugh at the punch you threw at the kid who took your ice cream or something.
You can tell that the person is an instigator before you become friends by simply faking a situation and seeing what they would say. If you’re not into testing people, then you could see by simply asking a hypothetical question.
2. The Wish Wash
This person goes for the most popular person all the time. This means that if YOU are not the most interesting to other people, they won’t be interested in you either. This one really sucks because they eventually come back to you, but you KNOW they’ll leave you again for someone else until their 15 minutes of fame ends.
It’s not hard to tell when a person is wishy washy. Usually, they’re not very good leaders, but they sure are GREAT at trailing behind and nodding they’re head. For lack of a better word, they’re dick-eaters: people who agree with everything a person says, gives unnecessary praise to what a person does, or focuses on the past events when they’re WAY over.
3. The Control Freak
He or she is obviously qualified to wear the pants in this friendship, so they take the lead. This person like to suggest what to do, who to hang out with and why it would be a bad idea to leave their side…ever. They give an opinion to everything you do whether you asked for it or not, and they would prefer if you went with their opinion.
This one really sucks because it’s not their fault. It’s in their inner workings to be the dominating one in the mutual relationship, and they don’t realize that it can be annoying. Oh well, sucks to suck right?
Telling this one is super easy. If you notice they give they’re opinion too much, or try to stop you from doing something because they don’t like it, they’re a dominating person. The question is whether you want to be dominated or not…hmmm…
Think of trina from Grojband.
4. The Self-Absorbed One
Just because they’re not carrying a mirror around 24/7 doesn’t mean their top priority isn’t them! It’s true that your top priority should be you, but if this person is ALWAYS talking about their day or their looks or their favorite color or something, it’s obvious they really only need you around as a giant ear. Avoiding this person is the easiest: just give them a picture of them self and do the great skedaddle.
5. The Competitor
“See how many gallons of water we can drink before drowning yourself internally?” is exactly where you’ll end up if you do not take caution and avoid this person. Some competitiveness is healthy, keeps the reflexes and mind going like a charm. Too much can be very annoying and eventually you’ll just see them as a competitor and not as a friend.
Try walking next to someone you think is a competitive person. They might start walking faster, then take it up a notch. You’ll be in a race before you know it.
6. Selfish Person
They’ll throw you under a bus before they will admit to helping you cheat on a math test. This person is MY least favorite because I have been thrown under the one time too many! These people have a knack for asking for help, but when it’s time to return the favor, they take a vacation day.
You can tell they’re selfish if they don’t say thank you after you do something (or it doesn’t sound from the heart). You never meet their friends because they like to keep everything to themselves. Also, they think that they deserve some special treatment for some reason or another. The biggest thing is that if you don’t feel cool enough to hang out with them, and think that you need to try harder, they’re using that to bring you closer to them.
7. The Fault Finder
You got that awesome designer jacket, but the person points out that it was found at a thrift store. The fault finder does just that, finds faults in everything you do. Most times it is intentionally to dampen your mood or make them self feel better.
Sadly, this is the type of person you can only avoid by chance because they usually don’t show this side of them when they’re just meeting you. The only thing I can say is that if they are trying to hard to complement you or it doesn’t seem real, stay away from them.
8. Gossip Person
These are more often girls, but I want to tell you that guys gossip just as much as girls. They just don’t do it the same way. Gossipers are always finding the fresh thing about someone they don’t even know. If it’s bad and juicy, they tell, if it’s nice and not, they throw it away.
Obviously if they’re gossiping most of the time they’re with you then you should avoid them. You think it’s all cool how they picked you to gossip with, but the truth is that they gossip about you to another person entirely.
These aren’t the only types of friends to avoid, but these are the most common and conniving. Watching out for these people will ensure you a peaceful friendship and therefore a peaceful life. Although it is adventurous to have one of these friends, it wears off pretty quick, leaving you distraught and annoyed beyond reasonable doubt.
As a side note, I want to tell you that you can’t change anyone. So trying to challenge yourself to change someone who is clearly not interested in changing is very foolish of you. Point, blank, period.
Till Next Time