Well, this is it. Only one more year to go.
As of Friday, June 27, 2014, I have officially ended the third chapter of my highschool book. I’ll be a senior.
It’s not shocking, it’s not nerve-wrecking, it’s not even scary. On the contrary, it’s actually a little humbling. When I think about all of the people who got held back, who died, or who even dropped out, I just think “I made it”. Then, I remember that I still have one more year left in high school, and it will probably be the hardest one simply because of all the loose ends I have to tie up. But, for now, we (my friends, you, and I) are still in the “I made it” phase.
And it feels good.
As I stare down the pathway to senior year, I wonder how many other people aren’t overly hyped to be one. I mean, it’s nice and all, it means I’m competent enough to pass a grade. Hooray! However, I often think that in less than 300 days, I will finish the easiest part of my life. I don’t know what I want to be, I don’t know what college I want to go to, and I don’t even know if I’ll keep contact with anyone from high school. Okay, well I do know what I want to be, but I want a degree before I pursue something like acting..
Overall, I learned a few things, both junior year, and as a cumulation of the entire high school chapter, that I’ve found and will continue to find helpful to keep in the back of my pocket. Hopefully, you’ll find some of these things helpful, even if you aren’t in high school, or if you’ve already graduated college and all that good stuff.
1. Sometimes, you have to cheat.
Look, a class that cheats together graduates together. Please do not hit me or any other student with the “I’ve never cheated before, so why should you?” story. The fact is, cheating isn’t just in the form of tests, but if you forgot to do your homework and asked your friend for that favor, you’re both cheating because it goes both ways.
It’s no secret that junior year is considered the hardest year in high school because it’s the first year you really learn something new. This year, most people thought of the bright idea to stack up on the hardest classes this year so they could chill senior year. Needless to say, it was a horrible idea, but it did get most classes like History, World Language, AP Calc, AP Chemistry, and Physics out-of-the-way for most people.
This year, I noticed that unless you were in our school’s Engineering Academy (because your brain is wired some other way then the rest of us) the hardest class was Physics. Well…if you got a certain teacher it was. You see, there were two physics teachers, one was Mr. La, and the other was Mr. Leibowitz. Although Mr. Leibowitz was probably the better looking out of the two, he more or less talked to himself when he taught, and it was the first year we had to learn to not be cajoled into asking a question. No one could wrap their heads around Kinematics, Electrical physics, and the fact that everything was going towards the center of the Earth at an acceleration of -9.81m/s^2. The only real highlight of this class was the Six Flags trip only physics students got to go to.
Because of the challenge of Physics, and the fact that Mr. La barely tutored anyone but his own students, we were forced to improv. The students who got it basically stayed to themselves, and the “smart” but physic-ally (lol) challenged people helped each other out. By the end of the year, if you looked on your phone, you would probably find 50 pictures of the homework you took so you could read through to just barely get through the test. No one cheated on the test though, that is some real crazy stuff that we were not into.
2. No matter how much advice you give someone, he or she will probably find his or her way better.
This is a given to everyone who is reading this and beyond. There will always be those people who come crying to you for advice, pretend to listen for an extended period of time, then blatantly ignore it. If you haven’t run into this kind of person yet, then you haven’t lived life, my friend. Don’t get me wrong, here. I am not saying that I want to force feed you my advice and YOU HAVE to follow it word by word, but it’s always frustrating when you know you have someone’s best interests at heart and they find a loophole in your advice.
During the entire junior year, I have experienced this several times. One particular incident that has been indented into my mind was when an acquaintance of mine asked for relationship advice. She mentioned how she and the guy were “talking” (the getting to know you phase before actually going out), and he was apparently taking more time than she liked. She either wanted him to define the relationship, or let her go. I spent two hours telling her that she should probably leave because, not to be stereotypical, the guy probably had more girls on the side. Also, he didn’t look like he had a good future ahead of him, and even though this was only high school, she shouldn’t fall into the pattern of picking losers because having a “type” is hard to break. She nodded her head, interjected when she felt I was putting him down, and made eye contact that was not awkward. All the signs seemed to point that she was listening to my voice of reason, and that she at least consider it. After the heart to heart, she told me that she was going to break up with the jerk!
Hoorah! She would get over it, but for now, the comfort of her not looking like a fool should do her some good. Well, that’s what I thought. She said although he’s not all that successful, not really goal-oriented, and he liked putting other people down, she could change him. She ended up talking to him for about 6 more months until she found out that he already had a girlfriend on the day of her graduation. I really hate being that person that said I told you so, so I didn’t, because it wasn’t even satisfying at this point.
I realized that although someone may ask for your advice, they may only want you to listen. At that point in time, that’s really all you can do because they most likely will not follow your advice, and that’s okay. The only thing I can say to that is make sure you let them know what they’re headed for, because people love asking “why didn’t you warn me?” a lot.
3. At This Point in Your Life, You Need to be NUMBER 1 in your life.
Yea, everyone says they prioritize themself first before everyone else, but is that really true? We would all like to think that because no one wants to admit that they’re a pawn for someone else’s enjoyment or success. However, the fact of the matter is that maybe we need to tone down being popular and look towards our own future, and what we would like to be.
Although most people aren’t the traditional people pleaser, it’s a fact that most people obviously want to be a part of the in-crowd, whether they have the courage to admit it to themselves or not. This may make them do stuff that they enjoy, but are really doing it for the social reason.
My sister is a really great runner but now, she’s a freshman college runner, and she basically passed the torch to an incoming junior. That girl can run, maybe not as well as my sister, but she has the talent that can be worked on with some persistence. Vickie (my sister) was recently telling me that she told Dev (the girl) that she should do Cross Country and winter track. You see, Dev was a soccer player, but we all agreed she can run herself to college if she put her mind to it. Most of the “popular” girls do soccer, but it’s obvious not all of them can play well. Allegedly, with some convincing, she now knows that she doesn’t need to do much to be in. Now, Dev is going to be doing Cross Country, because popularity will not be getting her a scholarship.
Sometimes, you have to do something that will benefit you. Sure, doing soccer is one of the ultimate ways to popularity (which she doesn’t need because she’s a fun person in general), but being a social butterfly will not wow a college admissions officer to give you a full scholarship. The point is, while wanting to have fun, it is important not to lose the reason why you’re in school. No, it’s not because one has to, otherwise many people would have dropped out by now. It’s because many people want to go further in life through hard work and dedication.
4. There will always be people who will hate you for no reason
Everybody knows this all too well. For some reason in life, there will always be that one person who hates on your success, gives you backward compliments, or talks behind your back to drag your name through the mud. If you don;t know this kind of person, chances are you’re one of them. You may have tried to tell them to keep your name our of their mouth unless they’re praying for you. Maybe maybe you tried to fight fire with fire, but since you aren’t the fighting type, you just made yourself look crazy or stupid. With my experience, which is a whole story on its own, and many other people’s experiences, it’s best to let your success do the talking. Obviously you must be relevant to their life if they have the impulsive nature to continuously talk about you. It’s way better to let them look stupid than to fall into the pettiness. You may say “But Tobi, it seems like everyone is listening to this fool and laughing at me with him/her”. Well, I say keep holding your head up and not falling into their pointless drama because when 5 years pass by and you’re long out of high school, you can be one of the few people who said “I didn’t fall into the hype”. Trust me, it is way more satisfying to know that you were one of the few wise people who didn’t lose your head for the sake of something as useless as backbiting.
Well, obviously I learned way more, like the Pythagorean theorem, the laws of physics, and that George Washington was the first President of the US, but that’s a story for another time. The point is, everything that everyone ever learns comes from experience. If I hadn’t paid attention to my surroundings and had some struggles, I never would have learned the value of things and learning in general. But enough about me. Comment below and tell me what high school experiences have shaped who you are and what exactly you took from that event …or events. Go ahead, I’m a good listener/reader, so lay your head on my pillow!
Until Next Time